Within seconds we analyze strangers. Sometimes it's not meant to be rude but it is organizing information into a stereotype, noting qualities, or relating them to someone you know, even though they could be entirely different in the end result-- but we do this just to keep the world we know stable. Familiar. We categorize. I admit, I do it knowingly and sometimes willingly but I thoroughly enjoy when an individual surprises me and breaks the mold. It is also within these few seconds we analyze our own personal compatibility. Some people use numbers, I believe either Fresh Prince (or the sons of the Huxtables) used the term 'cheeseburger', and others may not actually have a measurement for this analyzation. I've found that my measurement is literally nonsense words such as: eh, ooo, meh, ew, meep, etc. Assume which nonsense words are good, which ones are bad and you are probably right--and the ranking is quite ambiguous, yeah? I'd like to think the ambiguity comes from me not being entirely serious with this analyzation... I don't spend any more energy than these handful of seconds on any one stranger. When I catch myself doing this, I stop and I've only just acknowledged this.
But people do it nonstop. We judge and analyze strangers for many reasons and one of the most interesting ones is compatibility. Of first glance we check their potential for compatibility with ourselves and make cuts, or ranks, accordingly. Reiterating that I do this too, it seems so silly that this is the first way we go about cutting since there is so much more to a person, and a relationship, than first impressions.
REGARDLESS, I want to stop. I want to turn my mind off to this analyzing process because not only am I exhausted, I am not ready to see an individual in any illuminated light. I'm trying to get my mind and heart to focus on myself, for the first time in years, and I'm kind of losing that battle. However, I refuse to accept defeat.
Alas, here I have created the perfect man by compiling all these attributes I find redeeming. I don't know if this is the same with most men and women, but when I see something I like, I take notes. When I see something or experience something I don't like I tag that feeling and take notes. If love isn't about who you can tolerate the least then shouldn't you know what you are most compatible with and desire the most before you meet the person or see them in an infatuated light? As a result, most of the examples I will use are celebrities from movies which makes this exercise even more unrealistic and ridiculous! because someone wrote the scene. It never really happened. Obnoxious, I know but this way I can focus on this ideal man that I realize doesn't exist, (unlike Katherine Heigl in the Ugly Truth that believes he does exist) and therefore, forcing me to focus on myself. This compilation is to get me to the next stage-- I don't plan on being your crazy cat lady who smells like soup. Even though that result does scare the shit out of me, I know I have plenty of days and years before me of dating.
Frank Sinatra- Yes, we must start with a God. His voice. His class. His charm. If he was still alive I'd probably be a stage five. Sometimes I swear I was born in the wrong time period.
Mark Darcy- There is something sexy about a guy who is willing to throw a punch for a woman you are fond of and not even necessarily with. In the Bridget Jones Diary, Darcy happens to stick up for Bridget on a handful of occasions when she gets burned by other jerks.
Eric- From Julie&Julie, this guy is not only heart-warming, I find him attractive with how supportive he is of Julie and her cooking blog. Julie is going crazy, crying on the floor with spilt food, spending money on so much food, and here is Eric, supporting her cooking blog and encouraging her to finish it even though it puts there relationship at risk. His support is based on his genuine interest in her new hobby and his strong want to see Julie happy.
Christain- Not only does he too have a fantastic voice, his passion towards the woman he loves is unbearable. Holy crap.
Gerald Butler- Obviously, from P.S. I Love You- sweetheart from the start and clenched my heart strings the rest of the time. A man who loves his woman and goes the extra mile ensure she is happy and learns to live without him.
Hulk- Ok, so there kinda is something sexy about a little rage now and then... but this actor gets me every times. He's sexy and kind of reminds me of a huge teddy bear.
Brad- Besides his good looks, he is truly a talented actor, something I have learned to respect this last semester. I don't think I have seen him play the same character twice.
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Tim McGraw- In the Blindside, not only is Tim smoking he also is attractive for not letting his wife walk all over him and at the same time he supports her. She is pretty determined, strong-willed and stubborn... and instead of hating those qualities that can be annoying in a woman, he accepts them but still stands up for what he thinks.
George- Like Brad, besides his acting and his attractive features, I don't have any specific character from a movie to cling too. But George must be mentioned because in some ways-- he reminds me of my dad. And I wouldn't mind finding a guy like my dad.
Jake- I really liked his character in this movie. Great personality and sense of humor, and ultimately, he's a player who accidently falls in love. He meets a girl that matches his smartass, challenges his big moves, and he doesn't know what to do.
Maverick (James Garner)- Classy ladies man. Clever to solve the murder, smooth to get the lady, and skilled enough to kick ass at poker. He's a bamf.
Dean Winchester- I am obviously incredibly biased on this one because I am a big fan of his Supernatural show... but what I find redeeming about Dean is his hard shell exterior and his softness underneath. He acts like he gives no fucks but every now and then he's definitely be real, be vulnerable, and say what he's really feeling. His swag is also sexy. Mmmmm !
Jude- I always have this secret desire to be sang about. Not necessarily to nor a guy sing himself... but have a song. In Across the Universe, the song "something in the way she moves, attracts me like no other lover, something in the way she woos me, don't want to leave her now.. somewhere in her smile she knows that I don't need no other lover..." Yah, enough said really. It's the idea that a song can trigger a thought. I like that.
Robert Downey Jr.- He's a badass. And that's attractive.
Ryan Gosling- First of all, it's Ryan Gosling. Second of all, I am not going to comment on The Notebook (ironic right?) because I actually cannot stand that movie. As hopeless as a romantic I have previously been, I've never been into much of the hardcore chick flicks. But in Crazy Stupid Love- Ryan is a boss, has his crap together, knows his moves, is honest about them, and at the same time isn't too good to fall in love if it happens.
There you have it. Just to regurgitate, this is in hopes of turning off my mind and giving me a distraction. I look forward to the day when someone breaks this mold I just created.
Haha.
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